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While cruising the web, I came across this fascinating, but ultra sad story, about a mother of 5 and wife of a deployed soldier, who adopted a baby boy she was unable to bond with. (The story is from April, 2009.) She later terminated the adoption, and the baby was adopted by another family. She wrote a respectfully honest article about her experience. Read the story and some of the comments from readers here and then think about how you would answer these questions:

  1. Why would a family with 5 children and a father who is often deployed want to adopt a special needs child?
  2. Should a family with 5 children and a father who is often deployed be allowed to adopt special needs child?
  3. How long should it take for a baby with special needs to bond with a family? Or is it possible for a baby to never bond with a loving family?
  4. Is there a “romantic” vision adoptive parents have of the child they are going to receive?  You know what I mean – the dream that a baby with challenges will make a 100% turn-around to become a perfect, beautiful, bright, thriving child?
  5. Was it the mom’s inability to bond that affected the rest of the family’s ability to also do so?
  6. Did this mom give up too early?
  7. Was this simply about a mom who could not love this baby for reasons of her own, having nothing to do with the baby himself?
  8. Can you imagine being in this mom’s shoes? What would you do?

One of my closest friends adopted her foster child when he was 9 years old. He is a  bright adorable 12 year old now, but still struggles in many ways. He has made so much progress, yet new challenges present themselves every day. I can objectively say my friend is the best, most patient, most consistent disciplining mother I have ever met. She should win a “Parent of the Year” award, if there were one.

I could never, ever do what my friend has done. I used to think the main reason is that I already have a biological child of my own with no behavior problems. My friend had no children of her own before adopting her son. But now I realize parenting is more about commitment and consistency rather than about how the child came into the world or whether the parent has biological children as well.

I admire and commend any parent who adopts a child and never considers giving up due to the hard work and challenges that are guaranteed to arise. I also respect the mom in the article for being honest about her experience with her adopted son. I am sure her story was not easy to share. I do believe she should never have adopted in the first place, due to already having such a large family and an absent husband. And although I initially do not agree with her decision to give that baby up, I have not been in her situation, and it would not be fair for me to judge her decision.

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Young writer extraordinaire, Dallas Woodburn, shares her two books with us

Writer and entrepreneur, Dallas Woodburn, had her first book published at age ten, a collection of short stories called: There’s a Huge Pimple On My Nose. While attending college at The University of Southern California (USC), she had many articles published in major magazines and newspapers as well as another collection of short stories: 3 am: A Collection of Short Stories. She is living proof that you are never too young to start a writing career! Dallas also started www.WriteOnBooks.org, a fantastic website that publishes short stories, poems and essays written by young writers for young readers to enjoy. She holds a holiday book drive every year and even offers a summer writing camp for kids in Southern California. If this weren’t all enough, she also has a blog, where she shares all sorts of information about writing.

How old were you when you first became interested in writing?

It’s funny, but it’s difficult for me to remember a time before I loved to write! I learned to read when I was four, and I gobbled up books. Like many kids, I made up stories; I was compelled to write my stories down. I think this was largely due to the fact that my dad is a writer. Every night, my parents read me bedtime stories, and every morning I came downstairs to see my dad writing. As a result, I was very aware that someone had written the books I so loved to read. And I decided that I wanted to be someone who writes books for other people to enjoy.

What were your major influences at that time? Who inspired you to write?

My dad is my biggest fan and is the first person who reads my work – his feedback and encouragement are invaluable. I remember when I was little, he would let me type stories on his computer once he had filed his column for the day – how special that was! I am incredibly blessed that my parents and teachers were so encouraging of my love of writing from a very young age. Also, when I was in the first and second grade I was lucky to have an amazing teacher, Diane Sather, who encouraged my love for writing. I remember she had me read one of my stories to the class. I got such a burst of joy from sharing what I had written with others. It never crossed my mind to just write for myself. My high school English teacher, Tania Sussman, became an amazing mentor for me and I now think of her as one of my biggest inspirations and dearest friends.

How did you go about getting your collection of short stories published when you were only ten years old?

There’s a Huge Pimple on My Nose is proof that with a lot of hard work, a lot of perseverance – and, yes, a lot of support, too – a small idea can snowball into something bigger than you ever dreamed. My snowball began as a snowflake when I applied for and received a $50 grant from my elementary school to write, publish and sell a collection of my short stories and poems — but I think here’s what set my proposal apart: I would use the profits to repay my grant, so the school could offer an extra one the following year. My first printing, done at a Kinkos copy shop, was modest: twenty-five staple-bound forty-page books. Actually, they were more like thick pamphlets, but no matter – to me, they were books, my books, the most beautiful books I had ever laid eyes upon. J.K. Rowling wasn’t more proud of her first Harry Potter hardcover edition.

My fellow students and teachers, bless them, acted as if Pimple was at the top of the New York Times Best-Seller List. The first twenty-five copies promptly sold in a couple of days. Can you imagine what a turbo-boost this was to a fifth-grader’s self-esteem? I was pursuing my dream, but I wasn’t pursuing it alone – my family and friends and teachers were right there with me. So I went back to Kinkos, ordered twenty-five more books – and soon sold all those as well. After three more trips to Kinkos, where the workers now knew me by name, I searched out a publishing business and ordered a few hundred glossy-covered, glue-bound, professional-looking Pimples. My little forty-page dream evolved from a snowball into a blizzard, with newspaper and radio interviews; appearances at literacy events all around California; even a “Dallas Woodburn Day” at the Santa Barbara Book Fair. I still have to pinch myself, but Pimple has sold more than 2,200 copies and I repaid two school grants.

Looking back, I was fortunate to dive into this career at such an early age because I wasn’t afraid or self-conscious about my writing. I think as we get older, we tend to lose that child-like pride and confidence in ourselves and our work. I published my first book when I was in fifth grade. I wasn’t afraid of rejection, so I sent my book out to anyone and everyone I thought might read it. Sure, I didn’t hear back from a lot of them. But I did score reviews in The Los Angeles Times, Girls’ Life magazine, Cosmo Girl magazine, and others.

2,200 copies sold is indeed impresssive! You made a really great point here, Dallas – You were not afraid to try! I think that’s what stops most people from success in whatever they do. The fear of rejection and criticism.

Yes, many terrific doors were opened for me because I wasn’t afraid to hear the word “no.”

What kind of articles have you written for magazines and newspapers?

I write articles for magazines, newspapers and websites — everything from Family Circle to The Los Angeles Times to Writer’s Digest. I’m also a monthly columnist for GradtoGreat.com, TweenParent.com, and Listen magazine. I love profiling inspiring young people – like your daughter, Rachel (article to be published soon) – and helping spread the word about the amazing things kids and teens are doing. I think often the media focuses on negative stereotypes about teenagers, which is unfortunate because there are so many young people who are doing phenomenal, selfless things to better the world.

That is so true! I am so glad there are people out there like you to share positive stories with the world. How did you get your first article published?

One of my favorite things about being a writer is that even your most embarrassing moments in life are worth something because they are great writing material! My first article was for Justine magazine, at that time a newly established publication for teens, and it was a true-life account about how I was “sweet sixteen” and had never been kissed. The editors loved my honest voice and the piece resonated with a lot of readers. I have always tried to see my young age as an advantage in my writing, rather than a disadvantage, because it allows me to write about things like teen issues with a great deal of authenticity. As a teen writing for a teen publication, I wrote an article that I would want to read! I would encourage other writers to put themselves in this mindset – what insights and lessons does your particular background and experiences give you? How can you use these traits as an advantage in your writing life?

In addition to a love of writing, you and I have something in common. We both travel around our communities to speak to students at schools about writing and publishing. What is the main message you hope to get across to the students you speak to?

I hope that students come away from my talk inspired and motivated, knowing that they really can accomplish their dreams! I tell students that the lessons I have learned through writing can apply to whatever their own passions may be – sports, music, dance, art. Everyone at some point has to deal with rejection and discouragement. Everyone is going to face setbacks. Everyone is going to reach a crossroads where they might think of giving up. When they reach that point, I want students to realize that they are not alone – and the important thing is persevering through the hard times. Don’t ever let anyone discourage you from pursuing your dreams!!

Do you find this rewarding?

Incredibly rewarding! It is an activity that gives me great joy and fulfillment. Whenever I am feeling discouraged or creatively drained, going to schools and speaking to students inevitably recharges my batteries and gets me excited about writing again. So much energy and enthusiasm! It’s contagious!

I notice on your blog that you write about receiving rejection letters for your writing. Can you explain that?

Rejection is also something that everyone has to deal with. As a writer, I joke that I could wallpaper all four of my bedroom walls with all the rejection letters I have received from editors! The important thing is not to take it personally. For whatever reason, you or your writing just wasn’t a right fit for that publication at this specific time. That doesn’t mean that they won’t love the next piece you send to them! When I get a rejection letter, I first read the comments to see if there is any advice I can glean or ways I can improve for next time. Then, I submit my story or essay or article somewhere else.

It is so important for people out there to know about rejection, because the general public usually only hears about the success part of a person’s career. That makes us all think it is much easier than it really is!

Yes! It took me more than a year to find my literary agent. A year of rejection, rejection, rejection – until finally, I found my perfect match. My agent understands my writing and has faith in my career. I just had to have the patience and perseverance to find her!

Tell us about WriteOnBooks.org. What was your main goal when you started this website?

With my website I wanted to create a place where young writers can go to find resources and inspiration, as well as connect with other young writers. I started the site to coincide with my latest endeavor, which is starting a publishing company, Write On! Books, that publishes anthologies of stories, poems and essays written by young writers for young audiences. The goal is to give young people a much-needed outlet for expression and connection, while also hopefully inspiring a love of reading in youth. As a young writer, sometimes it can be hard to get people to take you seriously and get editors to even read your work. I believe that young people have a voice and opinions and a life perspective that just as important as the voice of adults. Moreover, there are so many books for young people that are written by adults – but who knows what its like to be a kid better than a kid herself? I am eager to read submissions from young writers — they can e-mail me at dallaswoodburn@aol.com or visit my website www.writeonbooks.org for more information.

Part of your website is Write On! For Literacy. What does that entail?

In a recent national assessment conducted by the National Literacy Institute (NLI) of fourth-grade students, 13% reported never reading for fun on their own; an additional 16% only read for fun once a month. I think this is a travesty. Reading has brought me so much excitement, confidence and has opened so many doors for me, including a tremendous college education and a career that I love.

Writing and reading have given me so much fulfillment and self-confidence, and opportunities that I never would have been given otherwise – like traveling to New York to be a guest on The CBS Early Show when I was writing a column for Family Circle magazine. I feel other kids should be exposed to writing and reading as well, to encourage their self-confidence and self-expression. When I published my first book, There’s a Huge Pimple On My Nose, in fifth grade, the teachers in my elementary school asked me to talk to their classes, and then I spoke to other classes throughout the school district. I still enjoy talking to kids about writing. At the beginning of my talk, I ask the kids if any of them are interested in writing, and usually a few shy hands raise. In contrast, at the end of my talk when I ask the same question, a lot more hands raise. The students told me they didn’t know that kids could be writers. They thought they had to wait until they were adults.

I started “Write On! For Literacy” in 2001 to encourage kids to discover joy, confidence, a means of self-expression and connection to others through reading and writing. My website www.writeonbooks.org features writing contests, book reviews, fun writing prompts, and more. I also hold an annual Holiday Book Drive to collect and distribute new books to disadvantaged kids — more than 10,000 books have been donated to date.

If one of our readers wants to sponsor a local holiday book drive for your organization, what should he or she do?

That would be wonderful! Write On! would love for you to start a Holiday Book Drive chapter in your area! It can be as large or small of an effort as you have the time and energy for. Many chapter leaders begin book drives by inviting friends and relatives to get involved, and then broaden their efforts to area schools, churches and community groups. I have found in my own efforts that often people in the community want to get involved with literacy endeavors, but aren’t sure how — when they hear about the Holiday Book Drive, they are very excited to help out.

If you are interested in starting a Holiday Book Drive chapter, please e-mail me at dallaswoodburn@aol.com and I will add you to our chapter list. I can also send you flyers to help spread the word and get the ball rolling!

Wow, Dallas. You sure have a lot of energy! What are you most proud of thus far in your writing career?

It is always fantastic to get fan letters and e-mails from readers who have enjoyed my work. Nothing makes my day more than a sweet note from someone who has been touched by my writing!

I think I am most proud, however, of Write On! and my literacy endeavors. When a boy tells me that he believes in his own potential after hearing my talk, or a girl tells me that she wants to be a writer now after visiting my website, it makes me feel like I am making a positive difference, and that is something to truly be proud of.

What are your hopes for the future of your writing career?

I truly hope to make a positive difference in the lives of others through my writing and literacy endeavors. I believe writing can connect people and foster understanding, and that is what I hope to do in my career.

I have started to write another novel, which I’m in the early exciting stages of – writing and waiting to see where the story will lead me. I’m also a staff writer for the websites GradtoGreat.com, TweenParent.com, and Listen magazine, a publication that encourages kids to make smart choices and stay away from drugs and alcohol. I’m having fun working on play scripts and submitting them to festivals. I’m also the coordinator for the Young Writers Program of the Santa Barbara Writers Conference – I really enjoy interacting with other young writers, and I hope to expand the program and continue to be involved with the conference for many years to come.

What advice do you have for children (or adults) who are considering a career as a writer?

Enjoy the process! As John Wooden says, “The journey is better than the inn.” In addition, publishing my books has taught me not to be afraid to take risks, and to take the initiative when you have an idea and make it happen yourself rather than letting fear and doubt make you wait. Because, why wait? Take small steps towards your dreams, and small steps can snowball into amazingly big opportunities!

Thank you so much for taking the time to talk to us, Dallas. Your accomplishments and attitude are an inspiration, not only for young people, but also for the countless adults out there who are afraid to take risks. You are living proof that one is never too young to take action and make a difference. Please stay in touch with Smart Poodle Publishing and let us know about your future publishing endeavors.

To reach Dallas Woodburn, visit her website by clicking here or email her at dallaswoodburn@aol.com.

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My author visit today at Whispering Pines Elementary in Boca Raton, FL was a whole lot of fun. What a happy and adorable group of kids! I spoke to 540 students today in 2 sessions. They were curious and courteous and eager to learn. The teachers and administrators at Whispering Pines have a great sense of humor and were ultra friendly and welcoming. You can just tell these teachers love what they do, and that what makes this school extra special.

The highlights including some silly dancing and silly voice characterizations as well as learning about the plants and animals of Costa Rica. Whispering Pines cares about geography education. Yeah! 540 K5-5th graders now all know where NY and Washington DC are on the map, if they didn’t already know before my visit. The students seem to have a lot of fun with the map and sharing what they know about the USA with the rest of us. I hope many of the students here enter our free Costa Rica Writing and Art Contest!

My favorite part of the day was when a few students came up to talk to me after the presentation about their travels and history. One boy is a descendant of former President William Harrison (and now I am going to do my homework on that Pres) and another tiny girl wanted to tell me about her trip to New Orleans where she saw the devastation still left behind by Hurricane Katrina.

Many thanks to Principal, Dr. Cornnell, Assistant Principal, Mr. Paupore, the wonderful Media Specialist, Barbara Wegner and all the welcoming teachers for inviting me to your school.  The students (and their parents) at Whispering Pines are so fortunate to have such a caring and fun school.

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The students love to help Lilly Badilly teach about the plants and animals of Costa Rica.

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Don’t let the tiny size fool you. This girl pointed to NY City in an instant!

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Hunter and Gregory Blain, the beekeepers I interviewed the other day sent me a bear-shaped container of the honey from their hive! Click here to read the interview.

It tastes amazing! If you want to really treat yourself, make vanilla iced teas with Bigelow French Vanilla tea and one Tbs of honey. Add a few drops of pure vanilla extract. Yum!

Thanks Hunter and Gregory!

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Read about Chrissie Maher, a British lady who started a Plain English Crusade in 1979. She was fed up with corporate communications to customers filled with mumbo jumbo words that every day consumers cannot understand.

The Wall Street Journal wrote a great article about her, and I just think she is awesome! It will make you think about the mail you get from your bank and the documents you are asked to sign!

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We should all know our state’s history. When was your state added to the union? Which states came before and after yours? How may other states were added to the union the same year as yours?

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States in order of Admittance into the Union and Date Admitted

  • 1. Delaware – Dec. 7, 1787
  • 2. Pennsylvania – Dec. 12, 1787
  • 3. New Jersey – Dec. 18, 1787
  • 4. Georgia – Jan. 2, 1788
  • 5. Connecticut – Jan. 9, 1788
  • 6. Massachusetts – Feb. 6, 1788
  • 7. Maryland – Apr. 28, 1788
  • 8. South Carolina – May 23, 1788
  • 9. New Hampshire – June 21, 1788
  • 10. Virginia – June 25, 1788
  • 11. New York – July 26, 1788
  • 12. North Carolina – Nov. 21, 1789
  • 13. Rhode Island – May 29, 1790
  • 14. Vermont – Mar. 4, 1791
  • 15. Kentucky – June 1, 1792
  • 16. Tennessee – June 1, 1796
  • 17. Ohio – Mar. 1, 1803
  • 18. Louisiana – Apr. 30, 1812
  • 19. Indiana – Dec. 11, 1816
  • 20. Mississippi – Dec. 10, 1817
  • 21. Illinois – Dec. 3, 1818
  • 22. Alabama – Dec. 14, 1819
  • 23. Maine – Mar. 15, 1820
  • 24. Missouri – Aug. 10, 1821
  • 25. Arkansas – June 15, 1836
  • 26. Michigan – Jan. 26, 1837
  • 27. Florida – Mar. 3, 1845
  • 28. Texas – Dec. 29, 1845
  • 29. Iowa – Dec. 28, 1846
  • 30. Wisconsin – May 29, 1848
  • 31. California – Sept. 9, 1850
  • 32. Minnesota – May 11, 1858
  • 33. Oregon – Feb. 14, 1859
  • 34. Kansas – Jan. 29, 1861
  • 35. West Virginia – June 20, 1863
  • 36. Nevada – Oct. 31, 1864
  • 37. Nebraska – Mar. 1, 1867
  • 38. ColoradoAug. 1, 1876
  • 39. North Dakota – Nov. 2, 1889
  • 40. South Dakota – Nov. 2, 1889
  • 41. Montana – Nov. 8, 1889
  • 42. Washington – Nov. 11, 1889
  • 43. Idaho – July 3, 1890
  • 44. Wyoming – July 10, 1890
  • 45. Utah – Jan. 4, 1896
  • 46. Oklahoma – Nov. 16, 1907
  • 47. New Mexico – Jan. 6, 1912
  • 48. Arizona – Feb. 14, 1912
  • 49. Alaska – Jan. 3, 1959
  • 50. Hawaii- Aug. 21, 1959
  • Most active year for admitting states into the union – 1788 (8 states)
  • Net most active year for admitting states into the union – 1889 (4 states)
  • Number of years where only 1 state was admitted to the union that calendar year – 27
  • Largest gap between adding states Arizona (1912) – Alaska (1959) Almost 47 years between.

What else do you know about your state?

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informant Today my daughter and I went to see The Informant, staring Matt Damon. We loved it. It was very entertaining. I have to say that we got a lot more out of it because we listened to the episode on NPR’s This American Life about Mark Whitacre, the real-life character upon which this movie was based. The movie is not as detailed as the story, for obvious reasons.

The Informant’s Executive Producer is George Clooney. Directed by Steven Soderbergh, The movie version of this true story manages to put a somewhat humorous spin on a very serious subject – corporate corruption. Matt Damon does such a great job acting here, that you never really think of the character as Damon acting. He even gained a bunch of weight to get a middle aged spread for the role, a common thing for actors to do these days. The rest of the cast was excellent as well, including Scott Bakula and even the Smothers Brothers!

Imagine a corporate executive (Whitacre) who goes to the FBI (because his wife says she will if he doesn’t) to turn in his colleagues at Archer Daniels Midland Company for price fixing. Whitacre becomes an informant for several years working magic for the FBI, completely fooling those who work in his company as well as business associates from around the world. But of course there’s a twist. Whitacre is not being completely honest with the FBI, his wife or himself. Despite all this he is a brilliant and totally likeable guy.

You’ll walk away from this movie saying to yourself, “OMG, this is a true story, and Mark Whitacre is a real person, a sociopath who has no trouble lying to the FBI!” You’ll also be thinking about how much we don’t know about the companies America relies upon for food and other essentials and just how corrupt corporations can be. Oh yeah, and you’ll be pondering just how it is that a man’s wife can bear to stand by him through a lifetime of lying and cheating.

So either read the book or listen to the NPR This American Life episode about it, and then go and see the movie. It will make you think a lot about corporate America, the stocks you buy and your hard-working corporate executive friends. Do you really know who they are?

FYI – Children under 14 will likely not be too interested in this movie, unless of course they are fascinated by corruption or American business.

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If you like pictorial history books, read my latest review on Wandering Educators.

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